Paul and Helen: Grandparents to Holly

Paul and Helen discuss their reactions to Holly’s diagnosis and how they managed to support their grieving son and daughter-in-law.

The death of a grandchild is a devastating loss. As a grandparent, you may find yourself grieving deeply while also trying to support your own child through unimaginable pain. It’s a complex, layered experience — one that can feel isolating, overwhelming, and deeply emotional.

In this video, grandparents share their personal stories of loss — speaking honestly about their own grief, the helplessness they felt watching their child suffer, and the ways they found to show love and support during the darkest times.

These stories offer comfort, recognition, and gentle guidance for others walking a similar path. You are not alone.

In this video, grandparents reflect on:

• The dual grief of losing a grandchild and watching their own child in pain
• The struggle to know what to say — and when just being there is enough
• The importance of patience, presence, and ongoing support
• Honouring their grandchild’s memory as a family
• Finding their own support while caring for others

For information about Red Nose’s free bereavement services, call our 24/7 Support Line on 1300 308 307. If you’re looking for a safe and supportive space to connect with others who understand, find a Red Nose support group near you. You’re not alone.