Men’s Grief

The emotional needs of fathers who experience the loss of a baby are often overlooked. While much of the focus can be on mothers, fathers also carry their own unique grief, which can include feelings of sadness, powerlessness, and even confusion about how to best support their partner. Fathers may feel a sense of responsibility to protect their partner from the pain of the loss, yet they may also feel excluded from the grief process. Their bond to the baby, while deeply meaningful, is often different from the mother’s—less physical and immediate. Despite this, the emotions they feel are just as strong.

In the early days after a loss, many fathers may feel the need to stay strong, not fully expressing their emotions for fear of overwhelming their partner or others. The role of telling family and friends about the loss can be difficult and isolating. Fathers might struggle to find a way to comfort their partner or to understand what they are feeling. The grief of men is often expressed differently, and while their journey may look different from the mother’s, it’s equally valid and just as important.

“It’s been quite a journey. I just hate that word… But what other word can we use to describe it?”

If you’re grieving, remember that you’re not alone. We encourage fathers, their mates, and families to support each other through the varied and complex emotions that come with loss.