Greg Matthews – Father to Hamish Joseph Matthews, who was stillborn

My name is Greg. I live with my wife, Jodie and our two living children, Lucy and Lachlan. Our firstborn, Hamish Joseph, was stillborn at full term, 39 weeks, on 10 September 2017, delivered naturally.

Hamish’s birth changed our lives forever. He made us parents and gave us a love deeper than we’d ever known. Although we didn’t get to take him home, Hamish remains at the centre of our family. We speak his name often, celebrate him, and include him in our lives every day. 

Jodie and I have been together for 13 years and just celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary on 26 April. Together, we parent three incredible children: 

• Hamish Joseph Matthews – stillborn 

• Lucy Jessie Matthews – 6 years old 

• Lachlan Hamish Matthews – 3 and a half years old 

Life on the Central Coast 

My family is my world. They bring me joy, laughter, and plenty of silliness—especially our two earthside kids. We’re beach people through and through—whether it’s the height of summer or the middle of winter, the women of our family are the first to dive into the waves. Living on the Central Coast gives us the gift of both the beach and the bush, and we often head out on nature walks to explore and enjoy adventures together. 

At home, we love to put on music and dance around the house—it’s loud, fun, and the kids absolutely love it. 

What I’ve Learned Through Grief, including tips for other families

After Hamish’s death, we realised the importance of connection and support. One thing I’ve learned is the value of being open and vulnerable. You are never truly alone—there is always someone ready to listen, even in the darkest moments. 

Here are a few thoughts I carry with me: 

• Be open and vulnerable to others—they are here for you. 

• Tell your family story and how you honour your child. 

• Let your child’s short life give your own life purpose and meaning. 

Finding Connection Through Red Nose 

Recently, I attended a Red Nose event at Urban Surf. It was great fun to get back on a surfboard—but more importantly, it gave me the chance to connect with other fathers who understand the pain of losing a child. 

It’s a club that no one wants to join, but the support and perspective it offers are invaluable. These moments remind me that out of unimaginable grief, there can still be connection, purpose, and healing. 

Here to Support Others 

If my story can help even one other dad feel less alone, then I’m here to share it. I’m always willing to be contacted and support others who are navigating this path.