We stayed at home despite the reduced movement. We assumed he would be ok. We didn’t know that six babies are stillborn every day in Australia.

I think of Archie every day. He would be 8 today.

By now, he would have had his first day of school. He would have caught his first fish. Flown his first kite. Built his first cubby house. Ridden his first bike.

And I would have been there for all those firsts – cheering him on. But, none of these firsts ever happened because Archie never took his first breath.

If I could relive one day of my life, it would be the day before he was born sleeping. I would listen to my wife’s concerns that he wasn’t moving enough. I would insist we go to the hospital. I would stay there until they realise his heartbeat is weak because blood clots in the placenta are cutting off his oxygen supply.

Unfortunately, I can’t do this.

We stayed at home despite the reduced movement. We assumed he would be ok. We didn’t know that six babies are stillborn every day in Australia. The next day, my wife didn’t feel him moving at all. We went to the hospital as a precaution. There was no heartbeat, and he had died.

Archie was born at 38 weeks. I spent only a day with him – his eyes closed, never to open. I held him and kissed him. I hugged him and apologised for failing to look after him. We left the hospital without him. It was so incredibly heartbreaking to leave the hospital without our child. That night my wife and I cried ourselves to sleep.

We decided that the best way to cope was to talk about Archie as much as possible – to make him a part of our lives. A person to talk about and think about. We talked to anyone that wanted to listen. We spoke to others who had experienced the pain of stillbirth. I don’t think the sadness will ever go away completely. I still get upset thinking about him and I am welling up as I write this.

But sometimes I manage to smile when I think about him. I smile when I think about his angelic little face and curly hair. I smile when I think about the excitement he brought me as my first child. I smile when I think about him playing with his little brother Hunter, and his little sister Harlow. I smile when I think about the boy he would have been and the man he would have become.

But most of all, I smile when I think about how proud I am to be his father – I just wish I had known more about stillbirth, so he could have taken his first breath and seen me smile with his own eyes.